Ruminations

So I’m sitting… awake… it’s 1.24AM. I wrote my last exam of the semester this afternoon (brutal but funnnnn — I’m just so grateful for the opportunity to be in school!) and for the past few weeks, all I wanted — ALL I wanted — was for this day to come. And I thought I’d just get home, throw ish around my room and hit my pillow by like 7.30pm. As though all these years of being me have taught me nothing. Cos of course, I can’t sleep. I don’t really feel like eating. Don’t wanna read. And browsing the net has gotten boring. It’s my old friend: the post-adrenaline-buzz slump. Anyway, I’m up and thinking — thinking all sorts of things:

1. I NEED TO WRITE MORE. I mean, really. Really. Really, now.

2. I need to work out… I need to get my work-out schedule in order, man. In general, I just need to get my ish in hardcore order for next semester cos there won’t be any games — zero time for unseriousness. And that means being in gear — physically, mentally and emotionally. Especially emotionally. But also physically. Well, all of them. (Oh, it’s not even about the hour — I generally don’t make much sense…)

3. Let’s see: what else?

4. Oh, home. I’m thinking a LOT about home. First of all, God only knows what that word means – “home”? I don’t know. And I don’t even know how I’d define mine: Chiggers, SA… anywhere with mummy or P? I don’t know. But I miss it. So much. Soooooooooooo much. So much, I couldn’t possibly tell you. It’s weird… and so visceral, it confounds me! And in the moments when I’m honest enough with myself, I have to admit that the oddest part about the whole thing is I don’t know what I miss. I don’t. I mean, the easy answer is “everything”. But that’s not true. I don’t even miss everyone. I mean, I miss a whole lot of people — don’t get me wrong – but that’s not it. But more than anything, I miss the place. Or the places. The places. And now I just want to go back so I can pay attention and put my finger on all the missabilities. And then I want to write a story about my little pieces of Africa — pieces of me. And what it (they) all mean to me. And how they’ve made me. And everything. All the stuff I never bothered to notice cos it had always been there. I can’t wait to get back home. And I can’t even handle how much I miss it.

5. Man!

6. This funk that’s been what — three years and counting? I need to get myself out of this mental and spiritual rut. I know this for a fact. And I just need to figure out how. Not that it’ll be easy, but it’s about past necessary… and the everlasting-quarter-life-crisis is just so not a hot look.

7. Tupac. Tupac Tupac Tupac… and why this whole thing has affected me so deeply. And empathy. And big hearts. And the TRUTH — and speaking it. And living it. And saying when you’re wrong. And the dangers of being rash. And on love — what do you do with all of it? Where do you put it? And how do you learn to receive it? On trying to understand. And on listening. Hard.

8. I need to write about Tupac.

9. But LISTENING? Jesus help me. Please.

10. I need to write!!! I need to write it all down and get it out and wade through it (ford across it?). I know there is such a thing as terra firma. I BELIEVE that. I know it’s not just this utopian notion I’ve dreamt up… this delusion. So I just need to get there.

11. In the meantime, I’ll learn to sit with my questions and be ok not having it all be perfect from the get-go.

12. I want to be brave enough to show my love more. I mean, to just give it out. Profligately, you know? Just give it all out out out. All of it. To try dispense it faster than God can replenish it.

13. I miss the kids! I smile when I think about them, you know? Loving people just creeps up on you and when it happens, you don’t even know what it means — or how to define it. Ha… pierced teeth. The whole sibling thing is kind of a mind-bender? Huge. I miss them though. And of course P — safe to say missing her is more-or-less my constant state of being so no news there.

14. Yep yep yep.

15. I’d love for God to just — one night in my sleep… just for the heck of it and to make my life easier — reach out and fill me with this understanding of dad. Like, I’ll just wake up in the morning and get it. get him. (Or should I wish instead that I'll wake up one morning having simply ceased to need this need?)

16. And I love my mummy. So much. I love her. And in a way I can’t explain — and I think more than anything — I just want her to be HAPPY. Happy in the way that means happy. I want her to be happy. And sometimes it feels hard to breathe cos I feel like that will never happen — so I wish I didn’t want it so badly. And then I don’t know what to do. (Does anyone? They seem to.)

17. The whole ever-after-quest thing… sometimes I get that it’s so stupid and futile and masochistic and just so far removed from necessary — sometimes I get that with such crystal clarity, it’s dazzling. But then two seconds later, all the sirens are going off in my head and I’m thinking “aaand… ever after??? How do I make my ever after? And how do I make it perfect? How do I make it real and meaningful and full of love (giving it mostly) and laughter and good people? And what the hell does it even look like?” So, you know, defs some sanity issues.

18. Happiness: I’m not sure it’s much of a goal of mine anymore. And not in that cynical, defeatist way — don’t worry. I just think it probably isn’t the best state of being anyway — not in any real way, you know? It’s just so... brittle. Freaks me out even to think about it too much.

19. I’ll take peace. All the peace in the world. All of it. I understand now why it’s all that Jesus promised. Peace with a generous side serving of meaning — whatever that means. Hehe.

20. Erm, I should stop at 20 and I think I’ll make it… gratitude. I’m so grateful to be here: grateful for the opportunity, grateful for the people I’ve met, grateful for all the LOVE I've been blessed me with… all the love so very many people have for me — and the fact that they make sure I feel it? I’m not even nearly sufficiently expressive of my gratitude for that. I’m sooooooooooo thankful. And so blessed. Thankful also for my capabilities and for my gifts. And I’m thankful I’m alive. I need to start owning every last one of these giftalicious twenty-six years. I am grateful. I am!

21. And I need my thing. (My two things?) Whatever. I need to psycho-geek out on something. But first I need to find it. And I will. (Nikki Giovanni? RS Thomas? Auden? Frost?)

22. Jesus, I need something to do next year come June. Help me? Something i will care about. Show me. Please. Please.

23. Tupac, I do wish you’d had a chance to grow into the ex-bad-boy-sweetheart you so articulately painted as your destination portrait. I wish that so much, it’s been literally hurting me for the past several weeks. I wish you’d had PEACE. Not that all this counts for anything right now. Except that there are thousands — maybe millions — of people like you all over the place and I’m not sure we’ve figured out a way to hear them yet. And to sit still and listen for a minute. And to embrace them and tell them that we’ve heard them and that we’ll do our best and that we love them and that we'll show them.

24. “The kid inside your head keeps asking why the/World has the nerve to keep turning?/And how the sun’s got the balls to keep burning?/And why the moon has the gall to keep staring?/And why your heart cannot stop caring caring caring/Stop.”

25. So I guess I’ll make it an even twenty-five… Jesus, teach me what GRACE means.

2009

"Scott took LITERATURE so solemnly. He never understood that it was just writing as well as you can and finishing what you start." - E.H.

thoughts...

ca fait longtemps.

there's a lot that i need from me in 2009 ("resolutions", if one must bandy the word about), but that's not what i wanted to write about today. well, maybe one of them: believing the best in people. giving them the benefit of the doubt. acknowledging their imperceptible trials. just... being about faith. faith in people. my big '09 project. and it will not come naturally to me, but i really want to try this year -- and moving forward. i do. i've realised how important it is; what a difference it can make. and how much courage it takes -- and how much it engenders in return.

i don't remember who said "the world is a fine place, and worth fighting for". i guess it's been repeated so often that it sounds trite now. which is unfortunate. but it is just the frame of mind that i'm trying to get myself into.

with everything that has been happening lately -- with all the beggars and homeless people i see, and with gaza and the congo and somalia and sudan and burma and pakistan/india, and christians and christianity, and religion as a general concept, and the economic crisis, and the fact that mom's miserable, and just... the world, the news... it's so easy to be OVER IT, you know? to think, "well, what's the point?". maybe this is life -- like, definitively, this is life. that there HAS to be shit mixed in -- always has been, and always will be. that maybe the "conservation of energy" principle extends to global, human misery: "suffering cannot be created or destroyed, only transferred from one form to another". so you put out a fire here, and then one starts there and we pass our lives chasing our tails. MAYBE. i can't rule that out.

what's more important though, i think, is intent. the aggregational intent of all living people at any given point in time. and the big thing is to believe that it is good. and that when it isn't, that there's a justifiable reason for any mal-intent.

i've been thinking a lot about the news. how it's almost always miserable. MISERABLE. (no news is good news, right?) and it's easy to get down on that when, in fact, this speaks pretty powerfully to the goodness of people. news are worth reporting largely because they're aberrant. that's what makes them NEWS. that's what makes people pay attention. so the fact that news is largely negative... i don't know. it makes me think that people might have it right; that all this madness still stirs up something in our collective conscience. so maybe the fact that bad news is reported consistently, repeatedly, day after day, year in/year out is not the worst thing. the fact that it exists -- the mess that has happened to warrant it -- is undoubtedly regrettable. but that's not my point. i guess the trick comes in identifying the critical point at which bad news crosses over from being an unfortunate part of our existence that nevertheless speaks to our ability to feel outrage, and instead becomes white noise -- something we've heard so many times spun in so many different ways for as long as we can remember that it becomes what life is to us. it becomes the background of to our lives' tapestry and we get to a point where, if we're honest, we admit that we would, perhaps, want to care. but we've forgotten how. and that is the downside to all the negative headlines i'm reading now: they're irking me less and less as time goes by. and it's great that people still care enough to report them but, oh... i don't know.

but i digressed. EVERYBODY IS DOING THE BEST THEY CAN. that was the point of this post. that is the awareness i need to carry with me this year. constantly.

everybody is doing the best they can.

(am i?)

poetry 6: great cathedrals

Great Cathedrals, George Bilgere

Before a date, my college roommate
Used to drive his candy-apple red Camaro
Down to the car wash and spend the afternoon
Washing, waxing, vacuuming it,
Detailing the chrome strips, buffing the fenders,
Spraying the big expensive tires
With their raised white lettering

That said something like Intruder
Or Marauder, with a silicone spray
Until they were slick and dark as sex.
He polished that car as if each caress,
Each pass of the chamois, each loving
Stroke of the terry cloth would increase,

By measurable degrees,
The likelihood that in the immaculate
Front seat, with its film of freshly applied
Vinyl cleaner, at the end of a cul-de-sac
Somewhere above the campus,
She would consent to be rubbed
And buffed just as lovingly.

We do what we can,
And if God is no more impressed
By the cathedral at Chartres
Than by a righteously clean and cherry
Camaro, at least He can't say
We haven't tried

With all our might to conceal our fear
That we have little else to offer
Than stained glass or polished chrome,
The elbow grease of our good intentions.

So I'm happy to see
That in the Christmas card photo he sent
Mark stands, balding now,
With a dignified gut, a pretty wife,
And a couple of nice-looking kids, in front
Of the great cathedral
Like the sweet vision of a future
He'd been vouchsafed one day
Long ago, through Turtle Wax
On a gleaming hubcap.

LoS

so, "lives of the saints" by nancy lehman is totally set to be one of my life's greatest loves. yay. time for some excerpts!

1.
"There's a famous line in a story where there is this married couple and it is observed about them that she had none of the world's dark magic for him, but he couldn't live without her for six consecutive hours. My feeling for Claude was like the reverse: I could live without his presence – as I had just done, when I was away at college – for a whole duration of years between the ages of seventeen and twenty-two. But he had the world's dark magic.

I don't expect him to be near, I mean. He can probably live without me for six consecutive hours. It would not matter to me if I only saw him three times in five years – and it will still be with the understanding that if there are people like that in the world, then there is honour, for here was a fellow whom you could depend on to be kind as a steadfast, incorruptible rule."

2.
"He politely watched me while I read the newspaper, which he'd brought. He did not speak. He had an air of observant logic, just watching me read.
"My eyes are killing me," I said. "I read like a fiend."
"Well, read like an angel," he said mildly, not taking his eyes off my face. "you're too interested in glamour," he said suddenly. "You socialize too much. You go out too much. You stay out too late. You drink too much. You should just be a simple, regular person. You should go to bed at eleven every night. You should just come home from work and cook, do the dishes, and just be a regular person. You shouldn't eat Carnation Instant Breakfast."
I received these stunning recommendations in silence. Then I said, "You're the one who needs that advice."
"No, no, I'm just a regular, normal guy. Who leads a regular life."
"Oh God."
"It's youth – it's just youth," he said looking at me, mild and unintelligible.
"What is?"
"Your behaviour."
"What behaviour?"
"You're so young!" he raved. "You're so innocent," he said. "How have you really been? I haven't really known, these past few years,, when you were away at school. I heard you had a breakdown," he added in a kind voice, solicitous but cheerful, as though it interested him especially. "Breakdowns?" he said. "Tell me about your breakdowns. That's what we're all about down here," he said. "Breakdowns.""

3.
""I've been hearing some things about Claude," Mr. Stewart said to Mr. Collier. "I hear he's been spending a lot of his time at the racetrack."
"Claude is not using his abilities," said Mr. Collier. Mr. Collier turned an eye of amused benevolence on his son Claude. Mr. Collier had a soft spot for Wastrel Youth. In fact, it was one of his favourtie episodes in life. He always said - trying to get the lingo, in his dignified old age - that the young people should "find themselves."
"I'd like to see that boy at the law school, Louis."
"He's finding himself, Walter," said Mr. Collier, ecstatic. He loved wastrel youths, but he loved his sons to a degree approaching beatitude. The combination - his sons plus wastrel youth - was almost too much for him."

hindsight really IS 20/20...

so i let it out unwittingly today. and it turns out i came here for an apology - or at the very least an explanation. funny that. and also funny what the combination of ignorance and delusion can do to a person. seriously, what the fuck was i thinking?

major learning: what matters to me matters... but then only to me. and i need to learn to be able to sit and live and dance and... breathe with that - and not just pay lip service to my ability to do so. and i'll have grown up when i truly let go of my need for certain "sorry"s. i just don't know why it's so hard to let it go, you know?

for a while i thought everything hinged on self-awareness - i mean, my ability to be "adjusted" and fine... maybe even happy? i thought that was about me knowing that i can't do x and need to work on fixing that, that i can't do y and need to let that go, that i kick ass at doing z and need to be cognizant of that too. but it... self-awareness isn't even the half of it. i mean, it's a start. the whole point of me blogging was to force myself to be in my head a bit more - but even that does not necessarily grant any results! and it's getting disheartening. it's like... like i find myself in a really deep lake and i take that in (self-awareness feat A)... then i admit to myself that i can't swim (self-awareness feat B)... then i decide that what i need is a raft, and i'll be fine - and there you have it. i have identified the problem and in this case even gone so far as to propose a solution but that does not result in the raft materialising, does it? cos if there isn't one, well... nothing's changing. it's an awful (awful!) metaphor on the whole - to speak nothing of the melodrammatic allusions to drowning in particular - but i couldn't think of a better one.

bottomline: all my expectations were really stupid.

fsg 2 and eh 1

i don't know why i'm so fascinated by these two men, but anyway - here goes...

"When the first-rate author wants an exquisite heroine or a lovely morning, he finds that all the superlatives have been worn shoddy by his inferiors. It should be a rule that bad writers must start with plain heroines and ordinary mornings, and, if they are able, work up to something better."
-F. Scott Fitzgerald

"You see it's awfully hard to talk or write about your own stuff because if it is any good you yourself know about how good it is—but if you say so yourself you feel like a shit."
- Ernest Hemingway

"Eschew the monumental. Shun the Epic. All the guys who can paint great big pictures can paint great small ones."
- Ernest Hemingway

poetry 5: hope for the past

Thanks, Robert Frost, David Ray

Do you have hope for the future?
someone asked Robert Frost, toward the end.
Yes, and even for the past, he replied,
that it will turn out to have been all right
for what it was, something we can accept,
mistakes made by the selves we had to be,
not able to be, perhaps, what we wished,
or what looking back half the time it seems
we could so easily have been, or ought...
The future, yes, and even for the past,
that it will become something we can bear.
And I too, and my children, so I hope,
will recall as not too heavy the tug
of those albatrosses I sadly placed
upon their tender necks.
Hope for the past, yes, old Frost,
your words provide that courage,
and it brings strange peace that itself passes
into past, easier to bear because
you said it, rather casually, as snow
went on falling in Vermont years ago.

poetry 4: the more loving one

The More Loving One, W.H. Auden

Looking up at the stars, I know quite well
That, for all they care, I can go to hell,
But on earth indifference is the least
We have to dread from man or beast.

How should we like it were stars to burn
With a passion for us we could not return?
If equal affection cannot be,
Let the more loving one be me.

Admirer as I am
Of stars that do not give a damn,
I cannot, now i see them, say
I missed one terribly all day.

Were all stars to disappear or die,
I should learn to look at an empty sky
And feel its total dark sublime,
Though this might take me a little time.

poetry 3: friends

To My Friends, Primo Levi

Dear friends,
I say friends here
In the larger sense of the word:
Wife, sister, associates, relatives,
Schoolmates,men and women,
Persons seen only once
Or frequented all my life:
Provided that between us, for at least a moment,
Was drawn a segment,
A well defined chord.

I speak for you, companions on a journey
Dense, not devoid of effort,
And also for you who have lost
The soul, the spirit, the wish to live.
Or nobody or somebody, or perhaps only one, or you
Who are reading me: remember the time
Before the wax hardened,
When each of us was like a seal.
Each of us carries the imprint
Of a friend met along the way;
In each the trace of each.

For good or evil
In wisdom or in folly
Each stamped by each.

Now that time presses urgently,
And the tasks are finished,
To all of you the modest wish
That the Autumn may be long and mild.

believing - the whys and wherefores

this is NOT going to be an existential piece... or some philosophical diatribe/ defensive sermonette. at all. i'd be the last person to do that. these are my thoughts - as they come to me, and as i try to put them together in a way that i can draw from and lean on.

firstly, there's a side of me that thinks using the word "sense" in matters of religion (which are, intrinsically, matters of the heart, the psyche... the "irrational") is somewhat contradictory. but given our collective limited lexicon - and english being the only language i speak - here we are.

i believe God exists. and i believe in the tenets Christ put forward. this is important to me. and the thing is, at times it's an obvious choice - but many more times a conscious one. and while it does not always make "sense" to me, it always seems to me to be the most... sensible. and i want to note why. not for the purposes of buying anyone over, but for me. it's my way of figuring things out. cos i'm not in this for the alleged afterlife - i'm not even sure i buy the idea that one exists. neither am i in it for the "morality" (don't get me started on this one!). and i'm certainly not in it for the "culture", or the "religion". not for the "Greater Power". i would REALLY be fine not having one. i'm not in it because it's "the only way". i'm not even it because i'm certain. the truth is i'm not certain at all - and a lot of the time, that really shakes me.

but i am in it. and deliberately so. and sometimes i doubt myself - and yet everytime in the end, i choose to continue. i wake up every morning and i CHOOSE to believe. the same way i choose to believe there are eight planets (really, what would i know?!), the same way i believe - on some subconcious level - that when i stand, my legs won't give way beneath me, the same way i choose to believe that when i make a rendez-vous for tomorrow, i'll actually still be around to make good on it, the same way i choose to believe that my next bar of dark chocolate will taste as good as the last: it's part information, part past precedent, part hope. then there's the part that is TRULY blind faith (to an extent that is true of no other belief in my life). and i needed to know why i choose to believe what i do every morning. even when it makes me seem stupid to me. *sigh* especially then.

this will be a continual work in progress.

so, here's why:

1. GRACE. and Christ. that is at least 99.9% of it (well, at least for me). grace. and trying to figure out how to get it right.

2. thankfulness. i can't imagine being showered with goodness, and having no one to thank! it's part of the joy for me. and is, as such, very important. so i thank Him.

3. forced introspection. being inherently averse to introspection as i am, it's good to have something that almost "forces" (for want of a better word) to undertake it. so i get to think about how i may have wronged myself. where i could have wronged you or anyone else. where i could have been better. where i made the same mistake i sought forgiveness for just two days ago. to whom i owe redress. why i need to try harder. it's necessary.

4. prayer. i'm a talker! and now there's always someone there to listen - whether or not there is, in fact, someone to listen. except that there is. (this is what happens when i get inside my head!)

5. letting go. that's actually a big one. wow. letting it all alone. being cognizant of the point at which i come to the end of my bit of rope.

fsg 1

"I am not a great man, but sometimes I think the impersonal and objective equality of my talent and the sacrifices of it, in pieces, to preserve its essential value has some sort of epic grandeur."
(F. Scott Fitzgerald (1896-1940), U.S. author. Letter, 1940, to his daughter Frances Scott Fitzgerald. The Crack-Up, ed. Edmund Wilson (1945). The words "some sort of epic grandeur" were used by Matthew J. Bruccoli as a title for his 1981 biography of Fitzgerald.)

just endearing...

poetry 2: mortality

Spring and Fall: To a Young Child, G M Hopkins

Márgarét, are you gríeving
Over Goldengrove unleaving?
Leáves, líke the things of man, you
With your fresh thoughts care for, can you?
Ah! ás the heart grows older
It will come to such sights colder
By and by, nor spare a sigh
Though worlds of wanwood leafmeal lie;
And yet you wíll weep and know why.
Now no matter, child, the name:
Sórrow's spríngs áre the same.
Nor mouth had, no nor mind, expressed
What heart heard of, ghost guessed:
It ís the blight man was born for,
It is Margaret you mourn for.

(and how!)

poetry 1: the dunce

Le cancre - Jacques Prévert

Il dit non avec la tête
Mais il dit oui avec le coeur
Il dit oui à ce qu'il aime
Il dit non au professeur
Il est debout
On le questionne
Et tous les problèmes sont posés
Soudain le fou rire le prend
Et il efface tout
Les chiffres et les mots
Les dates et les noms
Les phrases et les pièges
Et malgré les menaces du maître
Sous les huées des enfants prodiges
Avec des craies de toutes les couleurs
Sur le tableau noir du malheur
Il dessine le visage du bonheur.

yayyyyyyyyyyyyyy!

public holiday tomorrow! "assumption day", apparently. god bless roman catholics everywhere cos frankly, i don't see how i'd have held out till friday. ooooo, and ethiopian cuisine for dinner tonight - can't wait for that either.

so... i've been thinking. and it turns out what i need is a P.L.A.N. not exactly a newsflash i know but the thing is, somedays you're just more willing to embrace reality than others. i need to figure out what i'll be doing come next september, and where and - more importantly - HOW? i.e. will it take a bank heist or a hostile take-over of the nikkei or a platinum-exploration dig in my backyard or being adopted into the rockerfeller family... what? plans are everything, you know. and what do i want to study - and why? see, these are just the kinds of questions your average, mentally-stable individual has an answer for, but noooooooooo - not me. no. i must be the one that wanders through life desultorily. and the worst thing about it all is that i DO know what i really (REALLY!) want to do. i do. but i also know that i am soooooo not ready to do that now. maybe after two or three years, i don't know.

oh, and i think my french teacher hates me. not that i blame him - what with me cancelling/ re-scheduling every single session these past couple of weeks. but it's NOT MY FAULT! i mean, if i wrote my own paycheck i could afford to sit these lunch meetings out but life and misfortune being what they are...

now, i know i'm not a lister. not a compulsive one, anyway. not like the friends i have that draw up lists for literally everything - and derive such obvious, palpable glee from it. i make lists only as a matter of expediency. but the funny thing is when it comes to the books i've read and the words i've loved and the thougts i've had and the things i've hated and the ones that baffled me, i feel this need to note it all down. to recount them and then store them away. the thing is though, to what end? i don't get it. but i think i'll try to do it anyway - just for a while. just to see how it goes. so there'll be lots of those on this thing.

here goes...

TGIF!

i can't waaaaaaaaait FOR THE WEEKEND TO BEGIN...

yay! finally! and omg, i deserve to be shot, getting to work at 10 and leaving after 2 hours. but this is why i'd never be an organizer of any sort cos i kinda suck at it - now i have to run around all over the place for this bday-do tonight which will hopefully go off without a hitch. excitement!

too little time, ALWAYS too little time (for everything!).

testing... 1, 2, 3

aaaaaaaaand, i'm back!

i've realized i'm a talker - not always an out-and-out talker, sure... but i have this need to say whatever i'm thinking or mulling over or grappling with. i mean, even if not to anyone in particular, i need to get it out of my head and down somewhere else. so that's what this is about. and i want it to be honest. i think sometimes we (i!) narrate our lives to others - and even to ourselves - with exagerrated embellishments. and we feign excitement over areas that we actually found to be quite dull, and abject heartbreak over patches that we navigated with only a moderate amount of bruising. there's this need to make it all seem compelling and interesting and every bit "the next big drama" and that broadway will soon come knocking... and maybe our lives really are that compelling - but then only to us. and that's fine. frankly speaking, i'd find kurt cobain's daily routine of sex, drugs and alcohol fairly prosaic - but that's a relative designation.

("it matters, nel. but only to you." - sula)
("there is fiction in the space between/ you and reality/ you would do and say anything/ to make your everyday life seem less mundane..." - tracy chapman)

i'm not even sure what all that yabbering is about but... there we are.

i want this to be HONEST. that's about the sum total of my expectations , and i hope i don't disappoint.

i'm presently ploughing through "the brothers karamazov", and the bit i read just yesterday made me feel just so... vindicated. this one lady describes how much she's suffering to a priest - and at his prodding, goes on to elaborate that it's from a lack of faith. but not in God, so much as the future life... and just how utterly enigmatic it all is. and how the fact is, NO ONE can solve it. and this segues into a bit about love and some dude who said "the more i love humanity in general, the less i love man in particular." and i just found it really compelling. i worry sometimes that i'm teetering scarily on the edge of full-blown misanthropism. not all the time... but definitely more and more often. and not even the machiavellian aspect of it so much as the general disillusion with people (myself included) and things and time and whatever else. it's all very boring. but that's honestly how i feel - in a real plaguing kind of way. but then i'll get these intense periods of just LOVING everyone... almost. and giving them all the benefit of the doubt - or wanting to, at the very least (good enough, no?). hehe.

ag, well.

back to work.